*Jannat* is made with
1. Bricks of Gold and Silver.
2. Its cement is of perfumed Musk.
3. Its chips are pearls and Yaqoot.
4. Its sand is Zafraan.
*Eight Grades of Jannah*
1. Jannatul Maawa
2. Darul Maqaam
3. Darul Salaam
4. Darul Khuld
*Food of Jannah*
They will eat foods and fruits continuously up to 40 years.
Every bowl will have a new taste.
They will take eructation which will digest the food and there will be perfumed sweating for the digestion of water.
There will be no urine and stool.
There will be gardens in Jannah.
Every garden will have the length of about 100 year’s journey.
The shadow of these gardens will be very dense.
Their plants will be free of thorns.
The size of their leaves will be equal to ears of elephants.
Their fruits will be hanging in rows.
Jannatul Mava is in the lowest,
Jannat-ul-Adan is the middle &
Jannat-ul- Firdous is on the highest.
Those who love each other for the sake of Allah will get a pillar of Yaqoot,
On which there will be seventy thousand (70,000) rooms.
These will shine for the residents of Jannah as the sun shines for the residents of Duniya.
*Rooms of Jannah*
There will be rooms in Jannah in such a way that every room will have seventy thousand (70,000) dinning sheets.
On every dinning sheet 70,000 types of foods will be served.
For their service 80,000 young boys will be moving around looking like beautiful scattered pearls.
One bunch of dates will be equal to the length of 12 arms.
The size of a date will be equal to the big pitcher.
These will be whiter than milk, sweeter than honey and softer than butter and free
The stem of these plants will be made up of gold and silver.
There will also be gardens of grapes. The bunches of grapes will be very big.
The size of a single grape will be equal to a big pitcher.
Someone asked, ya Rasulullah (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam):
will it be sufficient for me and my family. It was answered, it will be sufficient for you and your whole tribe.
*The Dresses of Jannah*
The dress of Jannah will be very beautiful.
One will wear 70 dresses at a time.
These will be very fine, delicate, weightless, having different colors.
These dresses will be so fine that the body even the heart will be visible.
And the waves of love in the hearts will also be visible.
These dresses will never become old, never be dirty and will never tear.
There will be four canals in every Jannah.
4. Sharabun Tahoora.
There will also be three fountains in Jannah:
*Qualities of People of Jannah*
In Jannah, height of every Mo ‘min, will be equal to the height of
Hazrat Adam (Alaihissalaam) 60 arms (90 feet).
Beauty will be like that of Hazrat Yousuf (Alaihissalaam)
Age of youth will be like that of Hazrat Esa (Alaihissalaam) 30-33 years).
Sweetness of voice will be like that of Hazrat Dawud (Alaihissalaam).
Tolerance will be like that of Hazrat Yaqoob (Alaihissalaam)
Patience will be like that of Hazrat Ayyub (Alaihissalaam.)
Habits will be like that of Sayyaduna Muhammad (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam)
If a person makes Du’a for Jannah three times,
Jannah requests Allah that O, Allah; make his entry into Jannah.
And if a person makes Du’a for safety from Jahannum three times,
The Jahannnum requests Allah that, O, Allah; save him from Jahannum.
Please pass on and may Allah grant the entire Ummah of Nabi sallalahu alayhi wasallam Jannat ul Firdous Ameen!
Every good act is charity
*I am a ‘Surrendered Wife’*
Californian Kathy Murray says she saved her marriage by giving up trying to control her husband.
Despite considering herself a feminist, she follows – and now teaches others – the approach of a controversial book called The Surrendered Wife, which tells women to stop nagging their partners and start treating them with more respect.
The first time I married I was divorced by 26. I married for the second time at 32 but soon found myself sleeping in the guest room. My husband and I fought all the time.
Much of our fighting stemmed from the fact I thought my husband was clueless when it came to raising the children (we had four children between us aged from four to nine years old). We also quarrelled about how to manage our finances, and how often we made love.
I was working full-time as chief finance officer for a private school and also volunteered at my kids’ school and in my community. My husband was a sales rep for a construction company but I was the breadwinner and acted like I was in charge.
I didn’t tell anyone I was in constant conflict with my husband. I was embarrassed, angry and resentful.
My husband often resorted to watching TV and snuggling with our pets as I’d rage at him over ignoring my needs. It was awful.
The more I told my husband how he should be, the less he’d try. I couldn’t figure it out so I dragged him to marriage counselling. But that only made things worse, so we sent our children to counselling since they too bore the brunt of so much of our conflict. That didn’t work either.
So I went to counselling by myself and complained about my husband for more than a year. Spending thousands of dollars, only to find myself nearer divorce than when I started.
I’d cry, fight, yell and pout, thinking he would eventually come around, but he didn’t. I lost weight, went to the gym and started getting attention from men which was tempting to act on, but I knew I couldn’t do that, so I’d play the victim card and sulk. That didn’t work either.
I was about to end my marriage when I picked up a book called The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I mean, they don’t teach us how to be successful in marriage in school and the women in my life didn’t share the secrets either.
It was incredibly humbling to recognise that I had something to do with why my marriage was failing and perhaps even why my first marriage failed. But it was also empowering.
I didn’t know I’d been disrespectful to my husband or even that I’d been controlling and critical. I thought I was being helpful and logical. I just didn’t know that respect for men is like oxygen, so no wonder my husband was no longer interested in me physically.
I’ll never forget the day I first apologised to my husband for being rude for correcting him in front of the children, or the day I said “whatever you think” when I’d previously been extremely opinionated about what he should do.
I had trained my husband to ask my permission for everything. And then complained about it for a year in counselling that he couldn’t make simple decisions!
I relinquished control of my husband’s life, choices and decisions and instead I focused on my own happiness. I was no longer acting like his mother and started acting like his beloved.
We were fighting less and less and my husband started reaching out to hold my hand. I had no idea that I was responsible for my own happiness. I thought my husband should make me happy.
I’ve now found subtle ways of getting my husband in a good mood, which is far more effective than the days of begging, crying or yelling about why he was always. Even if I’m not in the mood and he is, I often find myself getting in the mood just by being open to seeing him pleased.
My kids began to notice the change in our relationship too, and as a result, their behaviour improved and our home became peaceful and fun again.
Women often ask me if my approach is about dumbing myself down or becoming a submissive wife. I tell them I am a feminist. Surrendering is acknowledging you can’t change or control anyone but yourself. That’s empowering!
*Comments by the Jamiatul Ulama Gauteng:*
Fourteen hundred years ago, the Holy Qur’aan informed us of the respective roles of men and women:
“Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband’s] absence what Allah would have them guard.” (4:34)
Fourteen hundred years ago, Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wasallam prescribed a formula to both husbands and wives which leads to a successful marriage:
How a couple behaves when they are angry with one-another…
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: “Shall I inform you which woman will enter heaven?”
The Sahaba replied: “Yes most certainly”. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said “The woman who has children, is lovable, when she becomes angry the husband consoles her and when the husband becomes angry she says that as long as you do not become pleased with me, I will not even apply surmah (antimony) to my eyes.” (TABRANI)
In the above Hadith both the husband and the wife are advised how to control their anger. Instead of screaming and yelling at one another, the husband should console and calm the wife. At the same time, the wife, instead of demanding a divorce, should surrender to her husband (as long as it does not lead to disobeying Allah Ta’aala).
*The six principles of being a ‘Surrendered Wife’
*Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband*
*Respects her husband’s thinking*
*Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him*
*Expresses what she wants without trying to control him*
*Relies on him to handle household finances*
*Focuses on her own self-care and fulfilment*
(Source: Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife)
Alhamdulillah, what non-Muslims are discovering now, has been taught to us by Islam centuries ago. Sadly, many wives command their husbands to act and behave according to their wishes. The Shaytaan incites the wife to exercise absolute control over the husband’s time, his associates and even his thinking.
The above thought provoking article written by a non-Muslim should be an eye opener. Even a non-Muslim husband will ultimately rebel at being controlled!
IF A NON-MUSLIM WIFE FOUND PEACE OF MIND IN FOLLOWING THE ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF SURRENDERING TO HER HUSBAND, THEN HOW MUCH MORE PEACE WILL A MUSLIM WIFE NOT ENJOY BY SURRENDERING TO HER HUSBAND (in permissible issues)!
Peace of mind is not having a mansion, going on holidays, having smart clothes etc.
Moreover, for a Muslim wife, there is a massive glad tiding, which is not for a non-Muslim wife:
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said that the woman, who performed her five daily prayers and kept the fast of Ramadan and protected herself from evil acts i.e. adultery and obeyed her husband, has a choice to enter heaven from whichever door she pleases. (HULYA)
Jannah has eight Doors. By surrendering herself to her husband in this temporary World, a Muslim wife will be given a choice which her husband will not necessarily be given, and that is to enter into Jannah from whichever Door she wishes to!
اللَّهُمَّ الْطُفْ بِىْ فِىْ تَيْسِيْرِ كُلِّ عَسِيْرٍ فَاِنَّ تَيْسِيْرَكُلِّ عَسِيْرٍ عَلَيْكَ يَسِيْرٌَ
O Allah! Make easy for me every difficult thing, with Your special favor and kindness, for it is easy for You to make every difficult thing easy
*_A calamity that makes you turn to Allah is better for you then a blessing which makes you forget the remembrance of Allah._*
*_Food can fill your stomach but never your soul._*
*_Possessions can fill your house but never your heart._*
*_Verily, there is a Fitnah (trial) for every nation and the trial for my nation (or Ummah) is wealth._* [Tirmidhi]
One very important statement of marhoom Hadhrat Moulana Muhammed Umar Palanpuri (Allaah bless his status)-
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The Noor of Ibadaat will be found in the Masjid.
The Noor of Ilm will be found in the Madressah.
The Noor of Zikr will be found in the Khanqah.
The Noor of Imaan will be found in the path of Allaah.
(Moulana) Yunus Palanpuri
Have you noticed when you meet a particular brother or sister for the first time, you get along with them instantly. You agree on most things, you feel comfortable in their presence and most importantly you talk to them as if you have known them for years. You even express yourself in a way that would take you months or even years with other people. You don’t hold back what you want to say and can express yourself freely in their presence. After meeting them a few times you have a firm attachment to them and proudly proclaim them to be your brother or sister. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) described why this happens. A’isha (radiallahu anha) narrated that the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: “Souls are troops collected together and those who got along with one another (in the realm where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world) will have an affinity with one another and get along (in this world).” (Bukhari, 3158; Muslim, 2638) So the brothers and sisters that you love and cherish in this world are with you for a reason. You were joined together before you were born and you exist in harmony together as brothers in this world as a result of that attachment. Al-Khattabi states that people are attracted to those who are like them and people’s souls recognise one another according to their nature. If they are similar they will get along and if they are different they will not get along. Finally this sums things up. Ibn Hibbaan narrated: “Ibn Abbas saw a man and said, ‘Indeed he loves me.’ His companions asked, ‘And how do you know?’ He said, ‘Because I love him and souls are like recruited soldiers, those that recognise one another unite in harmony and those that do not recognise one another are at an aversion.’ (Rawdah Al-Uqalaa, 1/108). May Allah bless our brothers and sisters and may we all meet in the gardens of Jannah under the Shade of Allah.